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I Just Don’t Know What to do With Myself…

I seriously don’t.  Last night the boys slept in a room together…without ME!  Up until this point, baby Everett has been in our room.  Let’s go back to the beginning.

One year ago today at precisely 6:00pm a little tiny, shriveled ball of colicy, jaundicey, gorgeousness was handed over to me.  He weighed exactly 7lbs.  Our first night he slept on my chest and we did skin to skin, so he could get use to my heartbeat and smell.  I also tried to nurse and a week or so later ordered a supplementer.  Probably for the first 2 months he slept on my chest, when he did sleep.  Baby Everett wasn’t very fond of sleeping.  He also was a very impatient eater, and would get easily frustrated with the Lact-Aid.  It came out too slow and he wouldn’t latch without a shield.  It was a hard few months.

He moved from off my chest to in my arms at night.  He would lay on his back in the crook of my arm and we’d sleep.  I slowly transitioned him to his crib, which was up next to my bed.  I hated to have him away from me, even if it was less than a foot.  He still woke up multiple times, and I didn’t want him to think I wasn’t there.  We bought a few toys.  One played white noise and the other was a sea horse that played lullabies and had a glowing belly.  I turn them on and he’d go to sleep.  He used to wake between 3-5 times a night.  I am not a believer in cry it out.  EVERY TIME, and I mean every single time Everett woke up in the night it was because he was wet or hungry.  I never ignored him.  I would pull him over, change him, and get his bottle.

Everett started sleeping through the night between 9 and 10 months.  Usually he would wake around 5 or 6 am and want a change and bottle.  Again, I would pull him over and attend to his needs and then cuddle back to sleep until 8.  It has been the most perfect routine for both of us the last few months.  Lately he has been sleeping a full 12 hours straight in his crib.  Last night Jeff and I decided to let him sleep in his crib in Elijah’s room/the nursery.  I didn’t hear a peep out of that room until 8:30 this morning.  They were up and playing.  I’m not sure what time they got up, because they were so quiet!

I’m very excited that their first night together went perfectly, but secretly disappointed.  I knew this night would come, but I didn’t know how useless I would feel.  I don’t know if it will last, but I know it’s for the best if it does.  It’s really hard because I don’t know if we will ever have a baby in the house again, and this all happened in a blink of an eye!

Anyways, I wanted to write this because I know everyone has an opinion on bed sharing, co-sleeping, etc.  My advice is just learn your baby’s cues.  I just wanted Everett to feel comfortable and safe in our home.  Would it have been easier to let him cry it out alone in another room while sitting in his pee soaked diaper?  I don’t think so.  I’m not judging anyone and their methods.  Different things work for different families and babies.

I just wanted to share our experience, because I wouldn’t change a second of it.  It worked out so perfectly.  Even though we spent 9 months getting up and down in the night, I knew that I was doing what is best for my baby.  Also, if nursing would had been successful, he probably would still be nursing through the night.  Which would be totally fine.

I think parents should listen to their children’s needs.  Even as a baby, they can tell you so much through their cries.  I didn’t read a book on sleep training a child,  I just read my child’s signs.

We are an adoptive family.  We got Everett when he was four days old, straight from the hospital.  This is just what worked for us.  It was perfect.  Now, I’m terribly sad all my morning snuggles are over (he’s not one for snuggling any other time…except when wrapped).

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Look Whoo’s Adopted! (Everett’s Adoption Party)

This is a day we have looked forward to for so long!  You were almost 11 months old by the time we were able to adopt you and have your party.  We cannot believe you’ve been in our lives almost a year.  It’s unbelievable how fast you have grown.  The theme featured a lot of owls.  You helped Mama get everything ready a few days before the party.  You mostly slept on my back while I decorated.  A lot of friends and family came to celebrate your big day with us!  We had a blast.  Here are some pictures from the day!

 

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you sleeping while I got ready for the party!

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with Uncle Mali and Aunt Amanda

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the Stacy cousins!

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baby E stealing my pickle!

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he LOVED the deviled eggs

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Jeff’s parents and their grandkids

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opening his presents.


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Everett You are Adopted!!!

June 11, 2014

The day is finally here!  The day that we get to swear to love you and protect you forever.  You, Dada, and Mama already knew that day happened when you were placed in our arms, but we had to swear it before a judge so she would grant us legal custody of you.  Forever.  I mean, I know you will leave me one day for another woman, but I have 17 years before that happens buddy. 🙂  Seventeen years of all the kisses, hugs, and snuggles.  I can’t stop kissing you.  I know this will embarrass you if you read it in the future, but I can’t.  You have the squishiest little face, and the most beautiful lips.  Oh man, the best place is your neck and your little chin.  You die laughing when I kiss you there.  You are so fun to tickle and I always blow raspberries on your tummy during diaper changes.

Oh man, tearing up again.  It’s been an emotional week.  I absolutely cannot believe how big you have gotten, and how fast you have grown.  You will be ONE next month.  I wish I could stop it.  It’s really not fair or nice of you to grow so fast.  I wish I could pause time.  Tonight I was feeding you your bottle and snuggling with you, and realized that soon you won’t need me like that.  Soon, you will be “too big” or “too old” for your mama to hold you and feed you.

Let’s talk about your day!  We slept in a bit, got dressed and then I wanted to get a few pictures of us together.  Dada was at work so Elijah took some pictures with my phone.  He might make a good little photographer one day!  Dada came home from work and got ready then we headed to McAlister’s to eat lunch with your godparents.  Mr. Jim, Mrs. Jennifer, Julianna, and Cameron met us for lunch.  One day you will truly appreciate having good Christian people in your life.  These people stick around for the good and the bad.  They will laugh with you, but also cry with you when you need it.  The Murrells are that type of family and that is why we picked them to care for you and your brother if anything were to happen to mama or dada.  We had a wonderful visit and lunch.  You ate chicken from my salad.  You are such a good eater, but very impatient.  I guess it’s good that you love food as much as the rest of us!

After lunch we headed to the probate judge’s office.  We had to wait a while and then we were all allowed to come back to her office.  She and the lawyer read all the legal stuff and we swore to take great care of you.  Then you were pronounced a Stacy!  It was amazing!  We love you so much baby Everett!  You bring so much joy to everyone you meet.  I’m so proud to be called your Mama.  God picked us out the most perfect baby boy.

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Baby Everett You Are 10 Months Old!

It’s pretty sad that the last time I blogged was a month ago, for your 9 month post.  I am really bad at keeping everyone updated.  It’s really hard with a toddling 10 month old and a 4 year old.  Ya’ll keep us so busy!

This month has been my favorite!  You are learning so much.  You are growing right before our eyes.  First, some big things are happening this coming month.  We get to officially adopt you on the 11th of June!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yep, that’s what I said!  The wait will finally be over.  William Everett Stacy.  You will be ours.  You will carry our name for the rest of your beautifully long life.  We love you baby boy!

This month you learned to clap!  The first time you clapped was the day we signed your adoption papers. Friday the 16th.  On Thursday we had your pre-placement visit with DHR, then Friday we signed papers at DHR and the lawyers office.  All we have to do is see the judge.  Anyways, we were eating supper that night and Dada was talking to you and clapping, and then you looked at him and clapped back!  I recorded it.  Seriously, the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.  A few minutes later he started playing the drums and you started dancing and clapping.  I recorded that also!

A few weeks earlier you started waving bye bye and giving high fives.  Also, equally adorable.  You sometimes will say, “Hi!” as you wave.  I’ve heard you say “bye, bye” two or three times.  You’ve said Mama a few times, but still won’t say it on command.  You say Bubba for brother.

My favorite thing you do is give me sugar.  I will ask you to give me a kiss and you put your face up to mine and open your mouth.  You only do this for Mama and I feel soooo special.

We are trying to teach you to sign.  Things like: more, eat, yes, no, mama, dada, finished.  You are the most impatient eater.  You don’t want me to spoon feed you anything.  You only want to pick food up and feed yourself.  If we don’t get it on your tray fast enough, you pitch a fit.  If we have to tell you NO and take things away from you you also pitch a fit.

You have 3 teeth, with your 4th currently pushing through.  You seem pretty miserable.  You slept through the night twice.  Once until 6am then again until 5am. Then the teething got bad and you decided to stop sleeping all together, naptime, bedtime.  You hated sleep for about a week.  And then, ta-da! last night you slept until 7am!  I was so proud! 🙂

Another new thing you do is shake your head no!  It’s cute, but I wish I knew if you were just mimicking us or talking back.  It’s really weird, because I think you are understanding some of the things we say.  You shake your head at appropriate times and also clap when you are excited or you accomplish something…or if the word Yay is uttered.  I can’t believe you are growing up so fast.

You favorite toys are still things you shouldn’t have or play with.  ie. the dog bowl (you ate kibble this week), our books, pencils, straws, paper (your favorite appetizer), all of brother’s toys.  You love to sling all the folded clothes off the couch.  You never mess with the unfolded.

You absolutely love it outside.  Oh, and water is your favorite.  This month we got to go back home and stay with Nanny and PawPaw for a week.  You got to play in the splash pad, the beach, pool, and pond.  You loved them all equally.  You learned really quickly not to eat sand.  🙂  I can’t wait to post videos and pictures of you at the beach.  This was your second time there.  You went when you were 3 weeks old to Gulf Shores.  You also ate gumbo for the first time, tamales, oatmeal, poop, and corn on the cob.  You love to gnaw on the cob!

I’m sure I’m forgetting tons of things, but I’ll just attribute that to Mom Brain.

We love you sweet child!  Oh, and next month we are going to have a BIG Ole’ Adoption Party.  The theme:  Look Whooo’s Adopted!  Owls everywhere!

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Baby Everett You are 9 Months Old!

You know I love you, right?  BUT oh. my. stars!  You are a path of destruction!!!  I can barely keep up with you, even with Elijah telling on you nonstop.  Mama, never quite expected this!  Now I know why people are always saying kids keep you young.  If you are not wrapped on my back, we are all three running around the house trying to find you.

Here are some things you love to get into:

  • you love to crawl to the tub and push all the bottles off the side into the tub.
  • toilet paper.  need I say more.
  • anything on the ground you eat.  bugs, paper, food, dirt, hair…maybe I should sweep more.
  • anything in your brother’s room.  we clean.  you destroy.

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You popped out your second tooth about a week after your first, so last month.  It didn’t hurt you nearly as bad.

You don’t say any new words, but babble ALL the time!

You fall asleep in the car.  You love your new car seat.

You only say “mama” when you cry.

You still smile at EVERYONE.  They love to see your toothy grin.

I haven’t found a single food you don’t like to eat.  You seriously love ALL food, like your brother.

You are sleeping in your crib like a champ, and usually only wake up around 5:30am.

You currently, and have for about a month, walk all around the room holding on to furniture.

You can even stand up while holding on to smooth surfaces, like cabinets and walls.

You crawl properly now, with your tummy off the floor.

Daddy bought us a new wrap for my birthday.  It’s a rainbow wrap since you are my rainbow baby.  You love it, and often grab and chew on it.  I think you like all the colors.

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We had an amazing 1st Easter as a family.  I hope to come back and add the family pictures we took on here.  For now, here is one of all the kiddos at church:

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Update on your adoption.  The case worker just came by this week.  They are still waiting on some of your medical information from the hospital.  After all that comes in, they have to write up a report and get papers for us to sign, then we go to court.  So, just more waiting.  We are praying to be finished with it all in May, but it could take until June.

We love you so much BooBoos!  You are growing up to be an incredible young man.  You seem to have the best personality.  I can barely remember when they placed you in our arms at 4 days old.  You are such a big boy now, and we grow more and more in love with you every day.

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Growing Like a Weed

So, you know how people say their children are climbing up the walls?  I just thought that was a joke.  I mean, how do you actually climb up a wall?  Well, it’s true little boy…you actually CLIMBED the wall today.

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And obviously since you know how to climb walls you know how to climb your crib.  You now pull yourself up on the bars, so you can prop up on them and talk to us.  Don’t worry, our bed is squished up to the crib and if you ever figure how to climb out you’d land on the bed.  I suppose it’s time to drop your crib down to the lower level.

I know this isn’t your 8 month post, but you have changed the most this month and I feel a mid-month post is due.  You are saying, “Dada,” and “Hey!” all the time.  It’s super cute.  You will climb over me in the mornings and say, “Hey!” Then you climb over to Dada and say, “Hey, Dada!”

Why do you have to be so big!?!

I took you in the shower with me the other day.  I wasn’t sure how you would do with the water spraying.  Well, you LOVED it!  You kept trying to “catch” the water in your hands.  You’re so adorable!  I bathed you in the kitchen sink, and switched the nozzle to spray, you did the same thing.  You were amazed.

You have started sticking out your tongue.  Not in a mean way, just in a discovery way.  You will smile and stick out your little tongue at the same time, which in turn produces oodles of slobber to run down your face.

You have learned the “throw it down and get someone to pick it up” game.  haha…not

Whenever someone else is holding you, and you see Mama you will stick your arms out and dive for me.  I secretly love this!  I love that you know I’m your Mama and you want to be in my arms.

You have refused to sleep!  You still fall asleep on your own, with little convincing, but you never stay asleep!  You are waking up every two hours and when you wake up you try to stay up!  This has been going on for two weeks now.  I feel like I have a newborn again!  They say when your baby has “developmental leaps” their sleep patterns change or are disturbed….something like that.

The weather is getting really nice, so we’ve been taking you and your brother outside a bit lately.  Daddy needed to fix his bike so we could start going on rides…you decided to help him:

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Keira looks like she was guarding you.  She does that a lot.  When you sleep, she’s right by your side.  She’s very protective, though she still doesn’t want to play with you (you like to pull hair, remember?)  This was Daddy’s first time wearing you.  🙂  I wonder if he will be addicted to it like me?  I’m making a Mei Tai, so we can wear you at the zoo this weekend!  Hopefully I’ll be done by then.

You and Elijah got to ride in the bike trailer.  You fell asleep within a matter of minutes.

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And here are your not so tiny feet.  They are so sweet and ticklish!

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Hey Elijah!!!  You will be 4 next month!  What!?!  I can’t believe we will have a 4 year old.  You’re practically grown…well, you think you are.  🙂  We have been doing some school stuff at home.  So far you can count to 20, say your ABC’s, know all your colors, learning your shapes, can write (almost by yourself) and recognize your name, color inside the lines, quote about 10 memory verses!  We are so proud of you.  You are going to be a super genius! I’m still debating on what “kind” of party to throw you.  I guess I need to start working on that.  You said you wanted to swim and go to a restaurant!  When I asked you what kind of cake you wanted you said, Banilla. 😛

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The Two Week Wait- 2WW

If you have  been on the TTC (Trying To Conceive) road you know about the dreaded 2 week wait.  If you haven’t I’ll elaborate.  The 2ww is the two weeks after your ovulation before you get your period.  There is an average of 14 days for most women, you have to wait these 14 days to tell if you are pregnant.  If you have been doing infertility treatments the wait is even more excruciating.  You know you are giving this your best shot.  You know exactly when you have ovulated, you probably even took medications to boost your egg making powers.  After you proceed with your treatment/procedure all you can do is rest and take it easy for the next two weeks.  They drag by slower than any days you’ve ever encountered in your life.  And just when you think you are about to go mad, ding! ding!…it’s time to pee on a stick.  Over and over and over you live these days.  Every single month.  The ups (knowing you did everything in your power to boost your baby making abilities), the downs (the inevitable double — minus sign.)  It’s enough for a lady to go mad, and drive her hubby there with her.  I know.  We know.  We’ve been there.  Month after month, year after year.  The roller coaster you so desperately want to get off, but know your life will end if you get out of that cart.  I know it’s a little dramatic, but when you’ve only wanted to be a mom for say….10 years, that is how it feels.

Right now we are in a two week wait.  14 days.  A wait, I honestly never heard of until we started our adoption journey.  The scariest words in my vocabulary right now are: “she can appeal.”  When you are adopting through foster care, after the parental rights have been terminated, the biological family can “appeal” (reject the ruling of TPR) up to 14 days later.  They can even take it to the Supreme Court and appeal a second time.  This can drag the adoption process out for years.  You literally don’t know from day to day if they will accept or reject the appeal.  So here we are in our 2ww, again.  Different, but the same.  The future of our child is hanging there, and we are just waiting.  Prayers are appreciated.  And if you are in your own personal 2ww, I’ll be praying for you too.