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A Quick Update 13 months, 4, and 30.

The boys are ever changing.  Literally 2 weeks after learning to walk, Everett is now running everywhere!  It is so hard to keep up with him.  He has a very headstrong personality, but is already learning what “No” and “Stop” mean.  He will stop what he is doing and turn around.  This doesn’t happen 100% of the time of course, but does happen very often.

He has found out where the food cabinet is (we currently don’t have a pantry), and has learned to open it, get out his raisins and eat!

He currently has 7 teeth.

If you tell Everett to wipe his face after he eats, he will.  He can also clean up his high chair.  It’s so cute.

Last night while Jeff was brushing Elijah’s teeth, I was brushing Everett’s.  All of a sudden he started saying, “Ahhhhh” and opening his mouth (which he has never done when I try to brush).

He likes to pick up play phones, long legos, and often plastic sheep toys and pretend they are phones.  He puts them up to his ear and talks. haha!

Everett loves the water, so we play in the little pool outside daily.  He wants to be outside all of the time and runs all over the yard.  Most days he has a fish net in hand carrying it around, scooping up stuff.

Everett is 13 months old.

Elijah is 4 years old.

Elijah has started preschool this year and is doing so well.  He is very eager to learn and please.  He has already started recognizing some letters, which he couldn’t before school.  He will see an A on t.v. and shout out what it is.  He probably knows around 7 to 10 letters.

Jeff just taught Elijah to whistle.  Apparently Jeff and I whistle a lot.  Elijah kept squealing trying to mimic the sound, so Jeff taught him how to properly whistle.  I seriously think I was 7 or 8 before I learned!

He also just learned to use scissors, so we are working on some fine motor skills.  He still memorizes verses like crazy.  So far he knows.  Gen 1:1, Eph 6:1, I Thes 5:17, Heb 13:8, Prov 22:6, Phil 4:4, John 3:16, Rom 10:17, John 8:32, Matt 6:33, and Gal 2:20.  I might have missed a few.  He usually learns a verse within a few days, especially if there is a song that goes a long with it, but we don’t give him new ones that often.

Elijah loves having a baby brother.  It’s so nice that they can somewhat play together.  Of course everyday has the, “MOM baby brother is tearing this or that up, or MOM! Everett is knocking my blocks down”.  Typical big brother little brother stuff.  Elijah has so much fun making Everett laugh.  It’s like that is his goal everyday.  It’s so worth it, because Everett gives these huge belly laughs, just for his brother!

They have both been sleeping through the night in the same room for a couple of months now.  It. Is. AWESOME!  They get 10 to 11 hours most nights.  Mama is in heaven.  Sorry to brag, I just didn’t know if this day would come.

Elijah is still in love with food.  From the time he wakes up, until he goes to sleep it’s what he talks about and wants the most.  If we are every going anywhere or going to visit a friend, the first thing he asks is, “are we going to eat”?  I think it’s a comfort thing.  We try not to stress too much, but he will tend to overeat until sick.  The doctors told us to monitor his portions so he’s eating more of what a four year old should instead of a 24 year old.  He will continually eat even when full, and get’s very upset if you take his plate away with food on it.  We have never told him he has to eat everything, just for him to eat until his tummy feels full.  It’s difficult at times, when he’s crying of stomach pains and has to take frequent trips to the potty.

I’m only sharing this for those of you interested in foster care or adoption.  Sometimes children develop these habits.  It could be for comfort, for control, or any other reasons.  But, it’s your job as a parent to be gentle and easy with them.  Try to teach them to listen to their bodies so they don’t hurt it.  It is often difficult at times to eat with others, because they think it’s amazing that our boys tend to eat so much.  They will compliment how MUCH they are eating, so Elijah in particular will eat more, because he thinks it’s a good thing.  It’s not.  We have to deal with him in pain afterwards, or puking because he ate so much.  It’s not a fun thing for kids to overeat.

I’m not sure how it works with most kids, I just know how things work with my kids.  I’ve spent the last year and 2 months getting to know them.  Elijah feeds off praise and positivity.  Attention.  If you compliment something he is doing, he will do it a million times longer, louder, better to get you to say more things to him.  It’s not a bad thing, but as adults we just have to monitor and help him.

Everyone wants to treat adopted kids the same, and you can to a certain extent.  BUT they are not the same.  A lot of them grew up in multiple homes, some have lost all their family.  Others are from different countries so we all look and talk funny to them.  It’s super scary for our kids.  A lot of adults don’t understand.  It can make parenting more difficult at times, but it can also provide learning opportunities for the kids and also the adults who don’t know any better.

It’s always best to think before you speak in any situation…

On to a different subject.  Jeff will be turning 30 in a couple of days!  Whoooohoooo!  I planned all sorts of things, but it seems not much is going to work out.  We shall see what the day/night holds, I’ll try to remember to update.  He’s doing fine by the way. 🙂