I feel good. I feel really good. I feel good about Elijah and I feel good about Everett. We had our adoption homestudy yesterday! Whooohoooo! I can’t believe we actually had a homestudy for ADOPTION! I didn’t think this day would ever come. We actually have a child we are able to adopt! We started our adoption journey March 2012. So, it’s been about a year and a half. We actually didn’t start our foster/adoption classes until July 2012. We NEVER thought it would be this quick. I’m not trying to give anyone false hope. We have been blessed so much, and I know there is no way anyone can guarantee you a time frame with adoption….especially with foster care. Our situation is special. Right place, right time kinda thing. Elijah was our 3rd placement.
So yay! The homestudy is over. It was quick and painless. I know adoption homestudies with agencies are much different than adoption homestudies through the state. For one, we already have been fingerprinted, background checked, they know all our history, we’ve taken all the classes, and we’ve already had two homestudies to be foster parents. So, if you want to read about our first foster care homestudy click here. The second foster care homestudy was just our case worker coming back to make sure we had our fire extinguisher and fire alarm, etc. Pretty much they have a check list and if you didn’t have everything checked off for the first study you have to have it by the second. No biggie.
So, adoption homestudy. We didn’t know what to expect, except we knew there would be an interview. Interview is a scary word and brings back painful memories of sweaty palms and pantyhose. Luckily none of that was involved and it was very informal. We just sat in the living room and she asked us questions about Elijah’s health and well-being. Is he adjusting well and do we have any future concerns for him? Are we going to change his name, and maybe a few others. They were super easy. She said she didn’t have to interview him since he was so young. Elijah was SO good while we were doing the interview. The case worker was so impressed that he sat at his table and ate his whole meal and then asked if he could get up when he was finished. He then played quietly in the next room, and later came in to read her his adoption book. We were so proud of him, and so was she. She said he was doing wonderfully and adjusting so well! She was impressed that he could talk in full sentences and he listened and obeyed us. We’ve been working really hard with him and he has grown so much over the past few months.
When you adopt a foster child they have to be in your home for 90 days before you can proceed with adoption. Luckily they are counting his placement with us from day one, so we don’t have to wait another 90. Now she has to write up her study and then we have to have an ISP. You will learn about those if you go into fostering. It’s just where everyone sits down and discusses the child’s future. You have to meet at the Department of Human Resources and kinda make a plan and put everything in writing. After the ISP I think there is more paperwork and then we get our court date. Our caseworker acted like this shouldn’t take much time since we don’t have to wait the 90 days, and he should be officially ours before the end of the year!!! *happy squeals*
The last thing she did during our homestudy is the safety check: all medicines and cleaners locked up, evacuation plan posted, fire extinguisher in the right place, water temp below 120.
Some of you might wonder why I’m giving you all and the whole world such an in depth look into our lives. I feel like by sharing our fostering/adoption stories and I can give you an insight to the unknown. When we started we only knew of 2 foster families, one of them being my husband’s.
It is mostly for those of you considering adoption. I want to show you how it will be if you adopt through your state. I don’t like frills and ruffles. I want to be as open an honest. I want to show you all the good, bad, and ugly. I think you deserve it. I hope I’ve been mostly positive throughout this whole process. Even though things move slow and we’ve sometimes been
very frustrated with the “system,” I do highly recommend this type of adoption. I can look back on how we felt about fostering a little over a year ago, and then I can look at how much it has blessed our lives, and these kid’s lives, and I know it was the right choice for our family.
Also, this blog is a timeline for us. A newspaper, bulletin, journal, or chronicle, if you will, of our family. Something we can look back on and share with our kids. Something we can look back on and see how much we and our family have grown.
And lastly, we have friends and family far away that are just genuinely interested in how we are doing, coping, and just our day to day stuff. It is for you too.
So, thank you all so much for tagging along as we share the wonderful whirlwind we call, Our Life.
Our latest photos:
Elijah is learning his letters and how to write his name (he had a little help.)