If you are not familiar with us and our blog, it might come as a surprise to you that “our baby” didn’t come to us in the traditional way. No, I didn’t conceive, carry a child in my womb for 9 or so months, and then bring her home and have to “survive” the first night as parents….Our story is different.
We’ve been trying to have a family for 5 1/2 years…today, we felt like we became one.
Little Bit arrived today from foster care. I can’t share with you any personal details, but I can tell you about our day.
Little Bit will probably only be staying with us for a short while, but we are really treasuring the moments we have with her. We feel so blessed. Emotions overflowing. This child is pure, perfect, simple, JOY!
She immediately came to me from the social workers arms. Jeff learned how to install a car seat while Little Bit and I went to look at the roses in the flowerbeds. She kept trying to pinch the petals off , and then we would blow them away. She laughed like it was the most hysterical thing she’d ever seen.
She took up with us immediately. She loves books and toys. This child is incredibly smart. I mean really smart. For example, when Jeff was lowering the crib height, she wanted to help. She actually picked up the screwdriver and inserted it into the screw and turned it in the right direction! Now, I know it’s probably against all rules to let a child play with a screwdriver…but really she wasn’t playing…she was helping. Don’t worry we were right there beside her the whole time!
Also, even though she is younger than two, she is potty trained. I’m keeping her in cloth diapers, just in case, but she will actually take you to the bathroom when she has to go. The cutest thing is when she is all done she will tap the toilet paper. She is so loving and pats our hands and arms when she needs something. She also loves to call the dogs. I love that little clicking noise so much!
Lunch time was fun.
Food She Dislikes: Tomato, Roast Beef, Pickles, Carrots, Mozzarella Cheese, Grapefruit
Food She Likes: Oatmeal (very leery at first), Chicken, Mashed Potatoes
Food She LOVES: Bananas!
Nap-time came next. It was about 2:00 when I put her down. She cried for about 5 minutes and then fell asleep. About an hour later, the dogs barked and woke her up.
We made a trip to Wal-Mart and the child was a champ! She even loved trying on shoes (go figure, she is a girl)! She never whines or fusses or throws fits…but it is only day two. 🙂 I pulled out my camera to take some pictures of her while she was eating and she immediately stopped what she was doing and started cheesing at the camera! She LOVES having her picture taken. Because she is in foster care we are not allowed to post any pictures…her safety is more important.
She loves to cuddle. She woke up once in the middle of the night and had to go potty. After that I cuddled with her in the bed. She curled her tiny little body up next to mine under the covers. I tried not to watch her, but she kept looking around the room with those big eyes. I wonder if she is thinking and longing for her mother. I’m sad for her, but happy that we get to treasure her for a few days.
I feel like I finally know how foster parents feel. I never understood how they could heal after losing one of their babies. It makes sense now. Even though we love her with all our hearts, and we’d love to keep her forever, we have to constantly tell ourselves…”she’s not ours”, “this is only temporary”, “she already has a family that loves her.” I’m sure it will be hard when the day comes to say goodbye, but we aren’t going to think about that now.
We are just enjoying being dad and mom to this little girl who needs us right now.
Things I’ve Learned:
It is difficult to put a diaper on a child standing up.
Jeff is the father I always imagined he would be!
Mistakes We Made:
We forgot to brush her teeth!
I didn’t put socks on her before bed, and she woke up with cold feet. 😦
First time my bathtub has ever looked like this:
Even though, we’ve only been parents for a day and a half, we feel like we have learned SO much! God has blessed us with the perfect 1st child!