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Happy Beginnings Post I {Tina & Stan’s Adoption Story}

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First let me explain what “New Beginnings” is.  It is a collection of thoughts and stories of mother’s around the U.S. who have struggled.  Most of the stories will be about those who have struggled with infertility.  It is to bring hope and inspire us (future moms and dads) who have faced the pains of trying to conceive.  I’m sure these stories will inspire others too, but it is mainly to encourage those on the TTC road or on the road to foster and/or adoption.  New Beginnings will go on as long as I have contributors.  I hope one day to put together a book of all the inspirational stories.

Our road to adoption has been hard.  We are still on it.  During those dark, despairing days of TTC and infertility treatments, all I wanted to hear was “it worked for me”!  I needed positive encouragement…I still do.  We all love positive, happy, real stories!

If you have a story of struggle.  Whether long or short, please, PLEASE email me to share your story!  God bless you all.

Now on to Tina’s Adoption Story:

HE is Never Late

My Journey to Motherhood
I have GOOD news and I have GREAT news; which would you like to hear first? Let’s start with the GOOD news because then we know it will get even better, right? The GOOD news is that the ever-present, ever-loving GOD has indeed answered my fervent, effective and righteous prayers for children in His perfect time, for our GOD is never late.  I can’t name the exact number, but I do know that for at least seven years I asked, I sought, and I knocked before my arms were filled to overflowing. It was a long, difficult road, filled with both physical and emotional pain.
To be certain, those were some of the most tear-filled, disheartening, BEAUTIFUL years of my life to this day. Which brings us to the GREAT news! In GOD’s magnificent wisdom, it was necessary to empty me in order to prepare me for “such a blessing that there will not be room enough to receive it” (Mal. 3:10b.) GOD could have opened my womb at any time or opened the first door to adoption, but HE did not. My way would have been instant motherhood; GOD’s way has resulted in a pure, abiding, trusting, everlasting relationship with Him that I never knew before. The children were the delicious icing on the cake, so to speak.
So often during the waiting game, I would return to Psalm 37:4 which reads, “Delight yourself also in the LORD, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” I’m sure you can guess which part of that verse engulfed my attention. Yes, the latter part.  Wasn’t my desire reasonable? Wouldn’t my husband and I be better equipped and motivated to rear God-fearing children than so many other unbelieving women who were having babies seemingly every time I turned around? What have I done wrong? I even prayed for the LORD to change the desire of my heart for children. The common thread among all these questions was, well, me.
During a seemingly endless array of tests, procedures, ultrasounds, and surgeries we began fulfilling the adoption requirements. In the beginning, I thought of adoption as my “back-up” plan or my second-best option. So foolish, so near-sighted. I was still more focused on giving birth rather than becoming a mother, and there is a big difference. God was patient with me and continued to strengthen and transform my thinking daily. He is so faithful.
My husband, Stan, and I were ministering to the youth group at our small congregation when Agape of Central Alabama called with news of a possible adoption opportunity. We were among the very first to hold this precious little boy only to be informed that the birth mother had changed her mind. Our drive home, two instead of three, was smothered in quiet numbness not unlike returning from a loved one’s burial. The strength of our marriage allowed us to grieve as one, and we felt a peace about our future, with or without children. I remember telling the youth group that they were the children that GOD had given me. In my heart I believe that is exactly the place where GOD was waiting to give us his BEST.
Two months later, when we least expected it, Agape called once again. If you have ever been on the receiving end of “the call” you well know how your world immediately stops and begins spinning in a totally new direction. Many, many phone calls, very limited sleep, and racing thoughts only begin to describe life after “the call.” We were in Florida on a working vacation along with our parents when we met, via the web, not one but TWO precious creations who needed a daddy and a momma. And there began the third most beautiful love story of my life.
On February 3, 2002, we brought home William Luke and Anna Grace, four-week-old twins! All four of us fell into the wide open arms of an incredible extended family and loving church family, both prepared in advance by the Master Weaver. Pure joy. Should I have expected any less from JEHOVAH-RAPHA, the LORD who heals? He continues to bless and grow us each and every day. And He is never late.
I would have lost heart, unless I had believed
That I would see the goodness of the LORD
In the land of the living.
Wait on the LORD;
Be of good courage,
And HE shall strengthen your heart;
Wait, I say, on the LORD!
Psalm 27:13-14
Tina wanted to offer her email address if anyone would like prayers, additional adoption info, or just an empathetic ear.  You can contact Tina at: tsfoster1@yahoo.com
Thank you so much Tina for sharing your beautiful story!
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Author: Jeff & Meg

This is a story of two lovebirds who got in a little over their heads, or at times it feels that way, remodeling a little home built in the 1940's. Our journey has bumps and twists, ups and downs, but we wouldn't have it any other way! Please join us and our two poodles as we flip this old house and work towards the adoption of our first child!

One thought on “Happy Beginnings Post I {Tina & Stan’s Adoption Story}

  1. WOW!!! what an amazing story! Thanks so much for sharing =)

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