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The Most Aggravating Part


about this whole foster/adopt, going through the state, DHR stuff is this one question that keeps popping up:
Imagine that the child welfare worker is at your door with the child or children you are planning to foster/adopt.  Pleas describe the child or children, for example: physical appearance, family background, personality, and school ability.

I’ll leave you with that.  I could rant and rave all day about this, but I’d like to leave that to ya’ll.  What are your thoughts?


Author: Jeff & Meg

This is a story of two lovebirds who got in a little over their heads, or at times it feels that way, remodeling a little home built in the 1940's. Our journey has bumps and twists, ups and downs, but we wouldn't have it any other way! Please join us and our two poodles as we flip this old house and work towards the adoption of our first child!

3 thoughts on “The Most Aggravating Part

  1. They are probably trying to gage what your expectations are so they can see which children would be a good fit for your family…

  2. It’s frustrating, but if you are going to have difficulty accepting a child who is of a different race or who has special needs DHS needs to know. Taking care of a drug addicted child, for example is a whole different world than a baby who doesn’t have those problems. If your child comes from a family background of mental or emotional problems, you’ll want to know that – and you’ll have to decide if that’s something you can deal with later on. Some people just cannot handle it – they have the very best of intentions but it’s not something they can do. DHS just needs to know and are (hopefully) looking out for the best interests of everyone involved. Nobody wants to see a child removed from a second home.

    I’m very excited for you and Jeff!

  3. The idea of race has never came to our mind when thinking about love/accepting a child. Appearance should NEVER matter concerning loving a child. And the personality part bothers me because everyone is so different. Are we supposed to say, “yes, we want a blond haired, blue eyed, girl with a mild, calm spirit”? The children in DHR have emotionally issues along with other issues. They’ve been abused and neglected, that is why they are in the states custody! If someone going through these courses is looking for that “perfect” child, they should stop wasting their time bec/ it’s not going to happen. Thanks!

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